Our Argument

‪What I’ve learnt/notice from our argument today: ‬

‪1) He sometimes don’t want to go out with me but always say why never ask him to join me & my friend go out.‬

‪(His Reason)‬
‪I have money to go out with my friend‬
‪but with him i have no money‬

‪(My reason)‬
‪I always go out wit‬h him & We didn’t plan ahead properly.
With my friends, It’s not frequently for me to go out with them & we plan our date n plan ahead.

2) After his nightshift, we went out just now. He is not happy with me cause I eat slow & didn’t think that he want to go home faster ,wash up & sleep. And last min I ask him to accompany me to find things for my friend.

(My reason)
I always eat in slow pace & if I feel rushed, i will give up to finish up my food & stop right away or soon. & he did not tell me to eat faster / want to go home faster.

(My fault)
I didn’t think about it or think it through about him/what he feel after nightshift and went out with me.I assumed that when he did not tell me anything or ask me anything, he is ok to just accompany me & is ok for me to takes time to finish up my food & also i take every chances that I have to spent time & more time with him .My fault to not think through & my fault to assume.

(What I feel)

I felt happy at that time & after it . I feel sad that he actually not ok about it & i feel heartbroken that in front of me he seems ok about it but at night at home he told me all this afterwards.I feel like whatever I felt before that , which is happy , it shouldn’t be. Cause I made a mistake and he actually not ok about it although he seems ok.It is like one sided. We did not feel the same thing about it.

(What I’ve leaned)

I should think about other people & think it through. Never assume . Never assumes it’s ok even when people didn’t say it.

(My next plan to do)

Never ask him & don’t ever go out with him during his first off  (after he’s nightshift) never , eventhough he agree to it in the first place .

He will be cranky & I will feel rushed. The end result will be both are not happy with each other and for me I’m not happy with myself too. I regret it.Cause I’ve made the first move.